emotional vampires

You Must Think! When Dealing With Bullying Bosses

July 22, 2013

The urge to explain is actually a part of the primitive pattern you want to avoid. It will always make an angry person angrier. Only after the anger cools and the problem solving begins is there any chance that your boss will look at the situation differently. There is another reason you shouldn’t explain: Once you start telling the story, the temptation is strong to alter events just slightly to make them fit better. The tiniest distortion will be seen as a much more serious crime than whatever else you may have done.

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The Care And Feeding Of Entrepreneurs

July 15, 2013

We revere entrepreneurs.  The rest of us would have nowhere to work without them.  There is a catch, however.  One of the reasons that so many promising new businesses fail is that the people who start them are good at creating businesses, but not so good at running them.  Many entrepreneurs seem to believe expertise […]

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Passive Aggressive Means Never Having To Say You’re Sorry

July 8, 2013

Passive-aggressive people cause more trouble than they need to. Their dynamics are simple and they respond well to praise and attention. The problem is you can get so angry at how they act that you may not be able to think clearly about what is likely to be most effective.

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Antisocial Organizations Are Like Crime Families

July 1, 2013

Ethically challenged people in upper management create organizational cultures in their own image. To be a part of things you have to think and act the way they do. The unwritten rules that define an antisocial culture should already be familiar to you if you’ve ever seen a movie about the mafia. If your organization follows these rules, you may unknowingly be part of a crime family, or at least a group that acts like one.

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How To Deal With Workplace Drama

June 17, 2013

The basic structure of dramas is the struggle between a protagonist and antagonist. The protagonist is the hero, the good guy. The people most likely to create dramatic productions are those who are already playing the good guy in their own narrative. As actors, these people make up for lack of range with enthusiasm. They really believe the role they’re playing, even if nobody else does.

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How To Get Your Manager To Actually Manage You

June 10, 2013

Preposterous as this scenario may seem, I can tell you based on years of experience that tactics like this work better far better than more direct and businesslike approaches. I can’t guarantee that everything will go according to the script I’ve written here. The words may vary, but the basic idea, transparent as it may be, will work surprisingly well. Try it and see.

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Dealing With The Most Dangerous And Difficult People At Work

June 3, 2013

Emotional vampires strengths and weaknesses are driven by a single insatiable need. Their careers and the people they work with are merely the source for gratifying that need. Unlike normal people, they have little or no empathy. To keep from being drained, you must recognize people with personality disorders and understand them well enough to step into their world and step out of the pattern they expect. Here are the ones most likely to cause you trouble:

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Dealing With A Workplace Bully

May 27, 2013

When you are confronted with a moral dilemma, always share it with someone you trust. Your own moral compass may be influenced by the magnetic pull of a bully’s demands. A close friend, preferably one outside the organization, can help you keep your bearings.

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