emotional vampires

To deal effectively with destructive patterns, you have to recognize them and avoid being pulled in. You see, these patterns all have elements that are attractive as well as destructive. In so many cases, people’s greatest assets if overused become liabilities. The value of diagnostic thinking is not putting people into categories, but in recognizing that certain patterns of thought and behavior go together. When you see one part of the pattern, the rest is likely to be there as well.