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If You Want To Be Effective, You’ve Got To Be Specific

September 10, 2012

A New York City taxi driver told me that there are a few essential ingredients for driving a taxicab successfully. You need a comprehensive understanding of how your city is laid out. You need an excellent reference map, committed to memory when possible. And you need to know what questions to ask and when to ask them to get your fare to their destination.

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No Action? Clarify The Process!

December 23, 2011

When people want to go forward and don’t. it could be because they don’t know how. They may know what, who, where and when, even why, but without knowing how to proceed, the only action is inaction.

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More Q&A, This Time Its Personal

December 19, 2011

Here’s the situation: A potentially emotional conversation between a husband and a wife, in which the husband takes a predictable argument and turns it into a persuasion opportunity.

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Applying Their Rules To Your Life? Ask This Question.

December 16, 2011

You need your own rules to play the game of life. Apply them to everybody else and you may be in for some serious disappointment. Looking down at others does little to build them up. The right questions help people step down from their pedestals, and find their own integrity.

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Assigning Blame Changes Nothing – Questions Change Everything

December 14, 2011

The formula of being the effect of a cause is as old as time, and is in common use whenever people are miserable. The right question can break the connection of cause to effect, and the spectacular effect is to find the deep structure information that seeks to be the cause of an effect.

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Health Implications And Asking Questions

December 12, 2011

As a student of the mind/body connection, I’ve been fascinated with understanding how my patients organize their internal worlds and what connection, if any, there might be to the health problems they deal with.

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How To Respond To People’s Projections

December 9, 2011

Psychological projection is “a psychological defense mechanism where a person subconsciously denies his or her own attributes, thoughts, and emotions, which are then ascribed to the outside world, usually to other people.

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A Little Q&A Turns Delegation Into A Decision

December 5, 2011

Him: “Um…that won’t be necessary. This is my decision. I’ll try your approach and we’ll see how it works out. Thanks for bringing this to my attention.”
Her: “Thanks for being flexible.” I’ll be back in a month. It’s good to know that you personally have this situation under control.”

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