Every once in a while, I still feel like writing on my blog. And as I’m on vacation with time on my hands, today seems to be a perfect day to write about perfectionism.
I’ve battled my own perfectionist tendencies almost to a standstill. I’ve pretty much won. It wasn’t a perfect win, and I still have occasions where those tendencies muscle their way to front of my life for a moment, but I’ve learned an important lesson: I no longer allow the ‘perfect’ to be the enemy of the good. (Back to this in a few)
Meanwhile, I keep meeting people who are facing this battle and are somehow unarmed! It’s a strange compulsion that makes us compare ourselves to an ideal standard and then judge ourselves for our failings and shortcomings. Whenever we do, we actually become our own worst enemy. And all that’s left to is when that happens is frustration, disappointment, anger and despair.
So what exactly is perfectionism? I’ll tell you what it’s not! It’s not EXCELLENCE! Excellence is giving your all, doing your best, and constantly improving. Excellence is shooting for the moon, aiming higher, doing what you can instead of focusing on what you can’t. Perfectionism is a horse of a different color.
It manifests in multiple ways. Pardon me for doing a riff that sounds like ‘you may be a redneck.’ But the list of symptoms is long, so here goes.
You may be a perfectionist:
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I tend not to mix business and politics. No point in creating division and reaction, it would work against the nature of my work. And I thought I was done blogging for a while, but today my blog called out to me.
Because, as I watch what’s going on in our nation’s capitol, I feel like I need to express myself or I’m going to bust wide open!
So here it is. If you have a problem with that, please stop reading now. I promise not to make a habit of it.
Note the headline. I’m referring to the drama being played out in Congress this week. And I’m using a play on Miley Cyrus’s self descriptor. So if you like Miley’s behavior, you must love Congress right now.
But if you’re like most people, you’re probably feeling at least some of what I’m feeling.
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Greetings! You may have noticed that for the first time in a long time there was no fresh post on Monday morning. Is it because the government is shut down and I’m not going to do my work until our representatives get back to work? Nope. Is it because I have nothing left to say? Nope. Is it because I don’t care about you, my hard earned readership? Nope.
There’s nothing new here because, after 5 years of posting my material online, I have decided to take a longer break from scheduled writing, and to only post here when I have something to say. At the moment I have no guest posters to contribute in my stead, so doing this ad hoc seems like the best choice at this moment in my life. I just celebrated my 64th birthday, and am making some changes in my business (bringing in my daughter to deliver affordable improvisational versions of my programs, and training doctors to deliver my communication workshop in medical schools.)
If you want to keep reading supportive materials that help you make positive change, reduce conflict and get your ideas across, you can gain all of these benefits by ‘Liking’ or subscribing to my Facebook fan page, at http://facebook.com/TheArtOfChangePage where I curate articles by others on my presentation topics.
Of course, all the writing I’ve done here previously will remain available. And there’s a search box you can use over in the right hand column if you’re looking for information on a specific topic that I’ve written about in the past.
Having said all this, there is a chance that I’ll come back to writing this blog soon, just as soon as I have something to say. For now, I am waiting to see what kind of response I get to this decision to change. So if you want more blog posts, let me know. If you’re satisfied, let me know. Because your feedback is likely the only thing that will get me to keep writing here.
Fair enough? Thank you for being a reader of my blog!
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