Good Ideas Don’t Always Win, But Please Keep Having Them

by Dr. Rick Kirschner on March 13, 2014


My musician friend, Roman Morykit, posted a link on his Facebook to an article on privacy this week.  He asked for friends to comment about someone’s very smart idea:  A ‘Do Not Track’ list for consumers, something along the lines of the ‘Do Not Call” list that Congre

ss did make possible some years ago.  You can read the details of the idea here.

That got me thinking about it.  And what I think is that it is brilliant in its simplicity and scope, and really ought to happen.  So here we have an example of a good idea, except for one small problem. Just like the Congress that made the ‘Do Not Call’ list happen, this Congress would have to act.  And of all the difficult challenges we face in these strange days, getting this Congress to act in a generally helpful way is way up on that list.

We know this is how it is now, right?   As a generalization, (meaning I know there are a few counter examples) our Congress doesn’t act. For the most part, the political class in Congress puts on an act. All the while, the patterns in place progress, and the bad problems (those with long term consequences) get worse as the citizenry fixates on whatever is distracting or frightening.  Who can blame the people for their seeming disinterest in their own governance?  So many problems.  So little collective will to solve them, even when solutions are within reach and are in our own interest.   The fact is, good ideas don’t always win.

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Are You Beginning 2014 With Intention And Commitment?

by Dr. Rick Kirschner on January 6, 2014

Super Start!Here at The Art Of Change Skills For Life, we are all about making a difference, having an impact, and living lives of service to a better future.

Change is inevitable, but progress is not.  You make the difference.  The biggest changes that ever have happened in this world were the result of people like yourself who showed up, stepped up, and took small steps forward towards an outcome they deemed worthy of their energy and time.   To master the art of change skills for life, you have to begin somewhere.

And in this case, we begin this new year with the most pressing question:  What do you want to change? Not what do you wish was different (We all wish some things were different, and wishing does not change them), or that someone else would do something about (If you wait for someone else’s hands, you may fall down!)

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Last Post For 2013, First Post For 2014, HAPPY NEW YEAR!

by Dr. Rick Kirschner on December 31, 2013


This is my last post for the old year (Bye, 2013, don’t let the door hit you on the way out), and the first for the new year (hello, 2014!  And may I say, you’re looking good!)

On behalf of Lindea and myself, we wish you a HAPPY NEW YEAR in 2014 filled to overflowing with health and happiness!

For me, 2013 was a great year, and 2014 looks to be even better.  I hope that’s true for you, too.  But I know 2013 wasn’t a great year for everybody all the time, and for some it was a terrible year.  If you had a rough year,  we sincerely hope that 2014 will be much better.

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Nobody’s Perfect! And That Is Perfectly Alright!

by Dr. Rick Kirschner on December 5, 2013

fingerpointEvery once in a while, I still feel like writing on my blog.  And as I’m on vacation with time on my hands, today seems to be a perfect day to write about perfectionism.

I’ve battled my own perfectionist tendencies almost to a standstill.  I’ve pretty much won.  It wasn’t a perfect win, and I still have occasions where those tendencies muscle their way to front of my life for a moment, but I’ve learned an important lesson:   I no longer allow the ‘perfect’ to be the enemy of the good.  (Back to this in a few)

Meanwhile, I keep meeting people who are facing this battle and are somehow unarmed!  It’s a strange compulsion that makes us compare ourselves to an ideal standard and then judge ourselves for our failings and shortcomings.  Whenever we do, we actually become our own worst enemy.   And all that’s left to is when that happens is frustration, disappointment, anger and despair.

So what exactly is perfectionism?   I’ll tell you what it’s not!  It’s not EXCELLENCE!   Excellence is giving your all, doing your best, and constantly improving.   Excellence is shooting for the moon, aiming higher, doing what you can instead of focusing on what you can’t.  Perfectionism is a horse of a different color.

It manifests in multiple ways.  Pardon me for doing a riff that sounds like ‘you may be a redneck.’  But the list of symptoms is long, so here goes.

You may be a perfectionist:

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It’s An Unstrategic Hot Mess

October 15, 2013

I’m embarrassed and ashamed before my daughter’s generation of what we’ve (and though I’m hard pressed to understand how it’s true, I’m including myself in that word) allowed this nation to become on our generation’s watch…a polarized mess driven by reptile-brain impulses and willful ignorance combined with state of the art communication knowledge and the technology to deliver it.

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You may have noticed…

October 2, 2013

There’s nothing new here because, after 5 years of posting my material online, I have decided to take a longer break from scheduled writing, and to only post here when I have something to say. At the moment I have no guest posters to contribute in my stead, so doing this ad hoc seems like the best choice at this moment in my life. I just celebrated my 64th birthday, and am making some changes in my business (bringing in my daughter to deliver affordable improvisational versions of my programs, and training doctors to deliver my communication workshop in medical schools.)

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How To Turn Your Boss Into A Better Listener (Podcast)

September 16, 2013

Today’s blog post is a podcast! Bestselling author, speaker and coach Dr. Rick Kirschner offers a story and advice on how to turn your boss into a better listener.

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Forever Neotonic – The Value Of Play In Keeping Your Youth

September 9, 2013

I often hear from my improv performance students or workshop participants that they love class because a lot of our exercises and activities give them the ability to be like a kid again. They feel more playful and imaginative. They get silly and giggly. Feeling child-like (and not childish) can be a great benefit of practicing the principals that make improvisation great, and it goes far beyond playing schoolyard games and making up fairy tale stories.

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