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How Do You Deal With Mixed Messages? Pt 2

October 16, 2008

Mixed messages get sent in the way we put words together, too. “Rarely is the question asked: Is our children learning?” George W. Bush, January 11 2000. And when our words don’t match our bodies, that’s a mixed message too! So is smiling while expressing sympathy, or

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How Damaging Are Mixed Messages? Pt 1

October 14, 2008

The prime directive of leadership is to hold the focus. People need to understand what they’re doing, why they are doing it, and why doing it matters. And why it matters is that doing what we do holds the inherent promise of making a difference, of changing things for the better. The art of persuasion allows us to deliver that promise. Yet there’s an inherent problem. Because when positive change is the promise, but everything actually remains the same or gets worse, that’s a mixed message. The only way a person can make sense of such a message is to draw the conclusion that ‘when change is promised, nothing will change.’ I’m sure you can see how this kind of confusion can paralyze our ability to make decisions and move things forward.

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Is This Presidential Campaign Sarcastic Enough? Well, Duh!

October 12, 2008

Sarcasm is an element of communication that is being used frequently by the McCain Palin campaign, and with greater frequency by the Obama Biden campaign. So why not take this moment to examine sarcasm? Why not, indeed.

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Just How Bad Is The Double Standard In This Election?

October 10, 2008

Is there a double standard at play in this election? If so, what is the root of it? I recently returned from a trip to the mid-west and south east United States, where I was astonished to hear racist comments about Barack Obama from educated people who I would have thought might know better. And it got me thinking, what if the tables were turned? What if John McCain had Barack Obama’s resume, and Barack Obama had John McCain’s resume. What would our perceptions of these candidates be under those circumstances? Well, apparently, at least a few other people have been thinking about this.

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Newspaper Offers Relationship Advice from Dr. Rick Kirschner

October 7, 2008

There’s a nice story in the Vancouver newsmagazine, Canoe, that features some of my advice for couples dealing with economic hardship who are getting on each other’s nerves. You can read the article by following this link.

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Who Won The 2nd Presidential Debate? Obama Takes It!

October 7, 2008

The 2nd Presidential debate is over. The 24 hour news channels and opinion makers in the papers held two views about how this would play out. First, that McCain was going to go hard on Obama’s character. Second, that McCain would do better than Obama in the town hall format. Pundits were wrong on both counts. In my opinion, Obama walked away with this one.

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How To Defend Against The Guilt By Association Tactic

October 6, 2008

In my previous post, I talked about the power of association and its use in the ‘Guilt By Association’ tactic. In this post, we’ll explore how it works and how to defend yourself from its use. However, there is such a thing as actual guilt by association. If you sit in a room and hear people conspire to break the law, and do not take action, you are complicit.

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How Does The Tactic Of Guilt By Association Work?

October 5, 2008

The big story over the weekend is that the McCain Palin campaign has decided to go completely negative, and attempt to tar and feather Obama in the public mind using the tried and true political strategy of ‘Guilt By Association.’ In today’s post, I’ll give a brief overview of the power of association in the art of persuasion. Then I’ll examine the tactic itself. In the following post, I’ll show how it does its damage, and how best to counter it.

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